Tonight I had a pirme example of the sort of thing in D/s that I really don’t like. This happened in a D/s sim where many follow a conveiton that subs should not sit on furniture. Hello, I’m a neko, in other words a cat person. Ever tried to keep cats off of furniture?
[23:19] Miss Ignorance: is Shuggi a domme?
Not a good start, I was sat right next to her. My hackles rise,
[23:19] Shuggi Grunspan: Who are you asking, Miss Ignorance?
>general chatter from other people present<
[23:21] Miss Ignorance: Shuggi seems to want to address me as a peer
Right, so she’s ignoring me eh? She’s gone from a simple slip to being actively rude.
>More general chatter and…
[23:22] Bystander 1: that is because she is not a sub to anyone here Aurora
Bystander 1 is a good friend of mine.
[23:22] Shuggi Grunspan looks to Miss Ignorance, “We’ve just met. The parameters of our relationship have not been established so I treat you the same as I treat anyone else.”
[23:23] Bystander 2 smiles Hello Shuggi
[23:23] Shuggi Grunspan: Hi Bystander 2, how are you?
[23:24] Bystander 2: I m doing great
[23:24] Bystander 2: How are are you dear
[23:24] Shuggi Grunspan smiles ruefully, “A bit black and blue. New boots and I’m falling over all the time. I’m told I’ll get better though.”
My new Mesmerize Dungeon Ballet Boots. They actually do make you fall over, limit your speed and limit what you can climb, great boots!
[23:24] Miss Ignorance: so Shuggi is not a sub?
Seems she’s not letting go, I’m about to open my mouth when my good friend steps in.
[23:25] Bystander 1: she is only sub to one person
[23:25] Bystander 1: the rest of the time she is free
[23:25] Bystander 2: She explained that to you
Maybe I should have left it there, but this ingorant woman who gives dommes a bad name, and by extension give me a bad name as I domme quite a bit, really had my hackles up. Not only did she talk about me in front of me, she ignored me when I called her on it and ignored my friend when she explained something that should not have needed explaining.
[23:26] Shuggi Grunspan turns to Miss Ignorance, “You know, you could just aske me. Thought of that? Okay, cliff notes version. I’m a switch. I’m Owned, I also have a sub. I’m owned by one person in SL and it’s rare indeed I kneel to her, she doesn’t like it.”
[23:26] Bystander 2: Bravo Shuggi
Funnily enough that was the last thing she said. Ten minutes went by and I turned to her and asked her why my inclination was so important to her.
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